“Say It Ain’t So Joe!”

John ArmstrongCollege Football, Current Affairs, Sexuality

This famous line in my title comes from the infamous Black Sox baseball scandal that occurred early in the twentieth century. As the story goes a young lad, who loved “Shoeless Joe” Jackson of the Chicago White Sox, could not believe his hero has cheated. In the movie version of “Eight Men Out” the boy plaintively said, “Say it ain’t … Read More

Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions: Questions for the Author (Part Three)

John ArmstrongBooks, Friendship, Sexuality

Today I complete my three-part personal interview with author Dan Brennan about his engaging and controversial book, Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions. I would encourage you to not only read this online interview I’ve posted but to visit Dan’s web site and even sign up for his Facebook page. There you can engage with him more personally and discuss his ideas … Read More

Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions: Questions for the Author (Part Two)

John ArmstrongBooks, Friendship, Sexuality

Today, I continue with the questions I began in yesterday’s interview with author and friend Dan Brennan. Here are some more questions I posed in my online interview about his very important book.  Why would it be wise and chaste to nurture authentic communion (“face to face” and “side-by-side”) beyond your spouse, with your cross-gender friend? I would suggest this … Read More

Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions: Questions for the Author (Part One)

John ArmstrongBooks, Feminism & Women, Friendship, Sexuality

Last year (December 21-24) I wrote a series of blogs reviewing a controversial but extremely important book on friendships. This book, Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions: Engaging the Mystery of Friendship Between Men and Women, is written by my friend Dan Brennan. I mentioned at the time that I did not particularly want to delve into this subject, knowing quite well … Read More

Holy Sexuality

John ArmstrongHomosexuality, Sexuality

I continually seek to understand both the Scriptures and culture with regard to the very hot subject of human sexuality. I cannot think of a single issue that threatens to divide us and defeat us more than this one. We debate this in convoluted ways that are framed by paradigms never employed in previous debates void of modern notions about “rights” and … Read More

Singles: Our Fastest Growing Demographic

John ArmstrongCulture, Current Affairs, Marriage & Family, Sexuality

Demographics involve the statistical characteristics of a population. Demographers gather data that is used in sociology, public policy, and marketing. Commonly examined demographics include gender, race, age, disabilities, mobility, home ownership, employment, where people live (rural, suburban, city, etc.). What researchers call demographic trends describe changes in demographics within a population over some period of time. We have often hear … Read More

Sacred Sexuality and Friendship

John ArmstrongFriendship, Marriage & Family, Sexuality

Author Dan Brennan believes that friendship love between a man and a woman is poised to become a receptive love that can coexist with marriage and not become a rival to it. I doubt that few conservative pastors or marriage and family writers in America agree with him. His thesis is simple, but clearly provocative: cross-sex friendship love is a … Read More

Aren’t You Playing with Fire?

John ArmstrongFriendship, Marriage & Family, Sexuality

When Dan Brennan began to explore his view of human sexuality and cross-gender friendships his pastor implored him to be extremely careful. His counsel was simple: “Dan, you’re playing with fire! Men and women are hard-wired for sexual union when they enjoy intimacy with each other” (21). To be honest this is exactly what I would have said before reading … Read More

The Problem of Romantic Myth

John ArmstrongFriendship, Marriage & Family, Sexuality

Could it be that modern church culture elevates the romantic experience of falling in love even above religious commitment to Christ? Author Dan Brennan, in his provocative and important book Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions, believes the answer is yes. He believes that we have so emphasized romantic passion as a unique, one-of-a-kind, love that all other love is seen as … Read More

Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions: Engaging the Mystery of Friendship Between Men and Women

John ArmstrongBooks, Friendship, Sexuality

I began reading the book Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions (2010) with an eye to find loopholes and practical problems in the author’s thesis. To say that his idea made me very cautious about endorsing this is a huge understatement. When I finished the book my personal copy was marked and annotated throughout. And almost every concern that I had was … Read More