Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions: Questions for the Author (Part One)

John ArmstrongBooks, Feminism & Women, Friendship, Sexuality

Last year (December 21-24) I wrote a series of blogs reviewing a controversial but extremely important book on friendships. This book, Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions: Engaging the Mystery of Friendship Between Men and Women, is written by my friend Dan Brennan. I mentioned at the time that I did not particularly want to delve into this subject, knowing quite well … Read More

Canucks Win! Canucks Win!

John ArmstrongFriendship, Games, Personal

I was not always a hockey fan. I grew up in the South when there were only six NHL teams thus I had no understanding of this great sport. My dad took me to my first game at age 8 or 9. It was in Chicago when we visited the city in February of one year. I thought, as only … Read More

The Greatest Thrill on Ice

John ArmstrongFriendship, Personal

I enjoy a very special friendship with a brother in Christ who is one of the owners of the Vancouver Canucks hockey team. As a result of my friendship, and my real love for hockey, I have adopted the Canucks as my favorite team in the NHL. I have even had the privilege of seeing a game at the Rogers … Read More

On Delivering Reproof in Love

John ArmstrongDiscipleship, Friendship

For as long as I can remember I have found that few Christians know how to deliver reproof to their brothers and sisters in a way that is effective and humane. We have turned “speaking the truth in love” into a virtual blank check to correct others at any time and in any form we think permissible. Our reasoning seems … Read More

Further Thoughts on Cross-Gender Relationships

John ArmstrongFeminism & Women, Friendship, Personal

I have written quite a bit lately on male/female issues. This has not been contrived through any preconceived plan, at least humanly speaking. I have thought about these issues for a lifetime. I fully expect that I will not work them out with complete satisfaction in my lifetime. I have admitted that some of this stuff frightens me. I have … Read More

Sacred Sexuality and Friendship

John ArmstrongFriendship, Marriage & Family, Sexuality

Author Dan Brennan believes that friendship love between a man and a woman is poised to become a receptive love that can coexist with marriage and not become a rival to it. I doubt that few conservative pastors or marriage and family writers in America agree with him. His thesis is simple, but clearly provocative: cross-sex friendship love is a … Read More

Aren’t You Playing with Fire?

John ArmstrongFriendship, Marriage & Family, Sexuality

When Dan Brennan began to explore his view of human sexuality and cross-gender friendships his pastor implored him to be extremely careful. His counsel was simple: “Dan, you’re playing with fire! Men and women are hard-wired for sexual union when they enjoy intimacy with each other” (21). To be honest this is exactly what I would have said before reading … Read More

The Problem of Romantic Myth

John ArmstrongFriendship, Marriage & Family, Sexuality

Could it be that modern church culture elevates the romantic experience of falling in love even above religious commitment to Christ? Author Dan Brennan, in his provocative and important book Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions, believes the answer is yes. He believes that we have so emphasized romantic passion as a unique, one-of-a-kind, love that all other love is seen as … Read More

Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions: Engaging the Mystery of Friendship Between Men and Women

John ArmstrongBooks, Friendship, Sexuality

I began reading the book Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions (2010) with an eye to find loopholes and practical problems in the author’s thesis. To say that his idea made me very cautious about endorsing this is a huge understatement. When I finished the book my personal copy was marked and annotated throughout. And almost every concern that I had was … Read More