“Where was I to find love? Where was I to give love?
If Scripture and the Christian tradition were right that I shouldn’t
try to find a husband, surely the apparent corollary couldn’t also be
right—that I was therefore cut off from any deep, meaningful
form of intimacy and communion. Could it?”
As an evangelical who has significant interest in the connection between sexuality and friendship, I was eagerly awaiting the delivery of Wesley Hill’s Spiritual Friendship: Finding Love in the Church as a Celibate Gay Christian. He did not disappoint.
Although Hill writes from the perspective of a gay celibate, he writes as an evangelical who seeks to integrate a post-Freudian view of sexuality with friendship. To be clear, Hill doesn’t use that phrase. That comes from take. In my own language, some of the distinctive features of a post-Freudian sexuality are that it 1) affirms we are all spiritual-sexual beings, 2) expands the meaning of sexuality beyond